I thought we were making progress today. We had some good play time, some good naps, and nothing special we had to do or get done. We just did grocery shopping first thing and stayed home.
Brendan likes to stack things
But every few minutes, he begs for the TV to be on
Trevor found this pair of newborn socks with little dogs on them. The socks had heads and then four little feet around the sides. I could not believe it, but they were able to stretch enough to go on his feet!
He loved wearing them, and barked at the dogs
Then, without prompting, he decided to give them hugs and kisses. Flexible Trevor!
As long as I kept watch, we kept the hitting to a minimum and things were OK. But then we got to dinner time. At the kitchen table, Brendan throws everything you might give him and decides to play with his trach instead. And then he yells. His yell sets Trevor off with a cry that is like a smoke alarm that you can’t turn off. He just melts down 100% and screams and can’t seem to get ahold of himself.
We struggle to know what to do. As long as Brendan sat at the table, Trevor sobbed out of control. Bill took Brendan out of the room and I was able to get Trevor to settle enough to get his dinner in him.
The noise and stress is hard on everyone, I wish I understood what was wrong.
The rest of the evening, we had to keep them separated, just for our sanity.
I wish I could think of a magic cure to your dinner time woes. 🙁 As much as you don’t want to do it, maybe Brendan can’t be with Trevor when he’s eating. In time, maybe Trevor won’t be as sensitive to Brendan yelling. Maybe Trevor will feel better when Brendan is eating. They must both have big anxiety over dinner time. It’s not a bad thing to allow them to be apart for awhile. It will be something that keeps changing and evolving as they grow and change. That’s my 2 cents, take it or leave it. I wish I could help more.
Silly Trevor in the puppy socks! How funny they will go on his big feet!
I like Brendan’s “concentration face” when he is stacking his blocks. It’s so cute with his little tongue sticking out! 🙂
I wish you luck with your dinner time challenge. I’m sure it will change for the better in time. Maybe it’s worth a call to their pediatrician for some advice.
Lots of love and hugs,
Gramma xxxx
P.S. I told Aunt Heather to smuggle Trevor home with her…problem solved! 😉
Good morning from the Lake House!! Oh Boy, oh boy!! The 2 of them sure have you going!! Watch out the next time Gramma comes to visit…that big suitcase she’s carrying…filled with fun things…might just be big enough for Trevor on her return flight!! Just wish that you could figure out what the true trigger to Trevor’s behavior and also what we call the “function” (where it actually comes from…what he “gets” from the behavior…eg: attention seeking, escape, just internal driven or whatever?? (Most likely attention seeking-whether it be for positive or negative reasons). Gramma’s suggestion of speaking with their pediatrician may be helpful. Purchase or find a special toy or thing that Trevor loves (favorite DVD in a DVD player, bubbles, or toy) and when he shows good behavior at dinner time, praise him, like “yay Trevor, I love the way you are sitting quietly” , he then can play a minute or two with it and praise his good behavior?? In fact over do the praising!! As long as he is safe, ignore the bad behavior (very difficult, but ignore…it might even get more intense initially, but really try) Use that toy only during the dinner hour, no other time during the day. This is a method we often used in school when redirecting behaviors and it really works. It can be difficult to initially get through because children often increase the behavior before it is extinguished. It is basically positive reinforcement, recognizing what he is doing right….not recognizing what he is doing wrong. Everyone likes to be told that they are doing a good job, no one likes to be told they are not doing a good job. Also, during the day when Trevor is playing well, praise him with hugs and kisses. He is definitely in that terrible two’s stage. He just cannot express himself, so he shows it with behavior. He is an absolutely adorable child!!! This too shall pass!! Only a suggestion, food for thought so to say. It is tough enough with one child in the “2,s”, having both is more difficult. We all wish that we could live next door and lend a hand when needed!! Hang in there!! Super big hugs, prayers and much love!! 🙂
🙂 🙂 Sounds like a “good time” for me to “walk in”…..having someone “new” there could go either way :o. I’ll hope, for the better. 😉 🙂
Fifty nine years ago, on the 31st of August, Aunt Letty. Uncle Robert, and I survived a *little bit of weather*, named Hurricane Carol ! :o. Brendan, Trevor,
I may be a little nervous, but I’m not afraid. 😉
This time tomorrow, I should be somewhere above, and west of Milwaukee, see you all about lunchtime. 🙂 🙂
😮 Just for the record, Tomorrow is a Full Moon ! 😉 😉 🙂